Friday, November 12, 2010
Solitary ConMindment
What is individuality? Is it even important? Am I allowed to embrace what makes me unique, or must I blend in with the masses? Will you belittle me for not listening to the same music that you do? Not wearing the same clothes as you? Do I really got to buy Jordans to be cool? Do I have to do everything a rapper/entertainer says? So, I'm lame because we're different? Should I be confined to only be "Me" within my mind?
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Individuality is when you are yourself around people even if they dont like you for who you are. I think indivuduality is important because you should be your own person even if people dont like you because your a little diffrent. Everyone should be allowed to do whatever they want and not be ridiculed for it. You wouldnt want some one to do that to you now would you... Now i didnt think so.
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh. I love this. Everyone should be entitled to be what they want to do because not everyone has to be the same. Everyone was not created the same so we have the right to do what we want to. There is no law that states that we have to abide by the rules or regulations that someone of "popularity" says we have to do. Everyone has there own tastes and dislikes and nobody is the same. Individuality is how you differ from other people. Yes it is very important because it states how you are. Yes you are allowed to embrace how you are on the inside and no you do not have to be a clone for someone else. No one has the right to belittle you because you don't like what they like. Some brand of clothes may not fit your personality so you do not have to wear them. Jordans are not something everyone likes. No you do not have to do what someone tells you to do. And no. You can be whoever you want to be and do not be afraid to let it show.
ReplyDeleteUniquity is a universal term. Everyone is entitled to their own aspects of mind, body, and soul. If you have an opinion stick with it and express it. Though indiviuality states that it distinguishes one person from the next, in today's society you RARELY ever find that. Everyone wants to be like someone else but still call themselves "individual" or "unique". We may as well all be labeled as 'Typical African-American/Caucasion' because that's all this generation will be known as, the 'typical' or 'basic' male/female.
ReplyDeleteIndividuality is when you proudly embrace yourself for who you really are. Individuality is definetly important because, if you aren't able to be an individual, you want be able to enjoy life. I don't think you should make yourself blend in with others, but it really is up to you whether you want to give in to peer pressure, or embrace who you really are. I don't listen to all the same music as my friends and they don't disrespect or belittle me for being a little different. You shouldn't buy anything, if don't feel like you need to. If you do everything a rapper does you might be setting yourself up for failure, because it's well known that rappers aren't the best rappers, most of them are posers any way. If you are different you are different, don't let anyone tell you there is something wrong with you. If feel you are confined to being you within your mind than you are hanging around the people, and you don't embrace who you are. If you can't outwardly express who you are, than their might be a problem with how you view yourself, and whether you really like yourself.
ReplyDeleteIndividuality is something that diginifies someone as being a unique person. Many people call it being real to themselves. Personally, i embrace what makes me unique. But many people do believe that you must blend in to be "liked" or to "fit in". I dont belittle people for not listening to the same music or wearing the smae clothes as me. Because i dont listen to the same music that the majorty of my friends listen to. And neither do i wear the same clothes. But the specail part thing about that is my friends accept me for who i am. Differences and all. Many people do label others as "lame" because they dress different, listen to different things, and have a different personality. When in reality everyone is supposed to be different. Noone is supposed to be that same. We as people should express are unique characteristics to others ; Not be the same as others. Im not me within my mind. Im in my own skin ; showing everyone who i really am.
ReplyDeleteI really agree with T'Lasia and another statement i would like to make is that no one should be ashamed for being diffrent because if everyone was the same then the world would be so BORING!!!!! I would be so mad if everyone was the same because no one would have thier own personality everyone would be the same!!!!
ReplyDeleteIndividuality means to be for who you are. I think you should be lie yourself and not worry about what others think of you. Individuality means to not let others define who you are. You should also, try not to fit in with peers that you are trying to impress.
ReplyDeleteI think that it is good to be different, it is what makes you you. Individuality is very important. Individuality is your personality, it is what makes you stand out from the masses. When you are just like everyone else it takes away from your uniqueness. When are each indivuals so why would we even want to be like anyone? I could see if someone had thing nice shirt and you have to get something similar to that because it just looks that good. Now I would want to be me either way I'm not going to change myself for anybody besides myself, if I do change I wouled just be giving in to sucking up and being like everyone else. What makes me unique is my personality and my ability to be me. Just because you don't know me and you are just getting to know me, and you decide you want to pin point me as fake. Because I am the way I am then oh well, you think what you want and I'm not going to change for anyone it is what makes me unique. What make me Chanelle. It's how I been from day one and the only way I will change or act out of my personality would be if I'm changing for the better and if I am changing for myself.
ReplyDeleteIndividuality is being different than anyone else and not changing for anyone. You don't have to wear the in style or listen to the same music as anyone else. You do whatever pleases you and makes you happy to be individual. Copying a rapper or entertainer takes aways from your individuality. Being lame is just a state of mind, people use it for people who don't do what others are doing. You shouldn't be confined only in your mind. It keeps you from showing people who you really are. You're giving people what they want to see or here instead of who you want to be.
ReplyDeleteTheBstEM : I completly understand what you're saying. And youre exactly right. This upcoming generation is going to adopt the label as "typical". Because it seems as if everyone is a copy-cat. Or as if we are all playing follow the leader.
ReplyDeleteIndividuality is very important because it makes us who we are. If everyone were the same this would be a very boring world. There wouldn't be as much diversity as there is now, we would be like robots. But to answer the last question.. YOu should be comfortable enough to just be yourself infront of everyone no matter what. Now myself? I'm not able to do that easily.. I'm honestly, a more quiet,very respectful, kind person.. But when I'm at school I am very loud and obnoxious, trying to fit in with people.. When it 99% doesn't work..
ReplyDelete@ LasiaLoveee, I definetely agree with you, this is exactly what I was saying. Who is to decide who we can and can't be. No one should have to conform to be someone they are not, especially if they feel like they are confined to being themselves in their mind !
ReplyDelete@ Mz.Tweeti I most definitely agree with you. And those that try to fit in and kiss butt and always try to be on some's good side makes a fool of themselves. If you are not being you then you are being fake and you are changing yourself to make others happy.And if anybody has anything negative to say about you being yourself and acting how you would normally act OH WELL. You call it what you want but regardless you don't have to like it cause I will be me either way.
ReplyDeleteIndividuality is what makes you who you are. No, you dont have to wear a certain thing or do a certain thing and become lame. You are who are. Even if you are popular for your personality, people will still judge you no matter what. So, wearing something you dont like, wont make a difference to nobody, but you. You should never put nobody's ideas, before your own. That is exactly why I do what I think is cool to me because i judge myself. People are quick to judge people who do not look like them. But the minute you get to know them, you realize that that person is actually cool. I dont wear Jordans, i wear chucks because I like chucks. It doesnt matter to me whether someone says something about it because i'm happy with who i am and what i like.
ReplyDelete@Earth Science: I agree with what you are saying. People try to change theirselves when they get around certain people because they want to fit in. If you be yourself maybe you can find someone that is similar to you and you won't have to worry about being ridiculed.
ReplyDeleteIt’s hard to be true to yourself especially when the person you are changes everyday. As you grow you change which makes it difficult to remain true to yourself. It’s harder to actually be oneself during ones adolescents because you have no idea of who you are…everything is trail and error.
ReplyDelete@Princess I 100% totally agree with you. It annoys me how people can actually ridicule people because they aren't the same as them, but those same people get upset when people act like then. It's a lose, lose situation that they are bringing uopn themselves. It's ludacris!
ReplyDeleteSo, could we all honestly say that we dont try to fit in? Could we "really' say that we dont try to please others by altering who we really are?
ReplyDeleteJoe Budden said you can have a million faces just be true to one of them!
ReplyDelete@LotusMan777: I agree with you. Sometimes if you try too hard to fit in instead of being individual you may find yourself being ridiculed and feeling uncomfortable, which isn't good.
ReplyDelete@Earth Science comment to Mz.Tweeti... I completely agree with you. There is a reason why students do not like uniforms so, they are unique. I dont want to turn around and have the same person wearing what I'm everyday. This world would be completely different and it would take the excitement out of making friends. We all have a friend that we can call our "besties," but I still dont want to be my best friend or vice versa. So, its just best to be yourself and try to persuade others to do the same.
ReplyDeleteSo, if Nicki Manaj says, "I'm a Barbie", you're not going to claim you're a barbie too?
ReplyDelete@Ms.A Oh my gosh that's exactly how I am! I mean it may not be a good idea to say that infront of everyone but that's exactly how I am. I can tell when my personality changes due to new ideas I have been introduced to or by things I experience, and it's honestly very hard for me to truly know who I am but this whole time I was the only person like that, but it's comforting to know I'm not..
ReplyDeleteI also believe you should definatley be comfortable with who you are because if you keep on tryi ng to change who you are then no one will know who that real person is inside of you and i really dont think you will know either.
ReplyDelete@Mike Mitchell: No, i dont think anyone can honestyl say that they dont try to fit in. Everyone wants to have friends or have someone like them. But theres a limit that you cross that brings you to a place where youre not yourself anymore ; you've become someone else. And thats where the problem comes in.
ReplyDeleteIndividuality is what distinguishes a person from another person. it is important because it make everyone different and if we did not have individuality then the world would be a boring place. No one should be confine in their mind because it take away from who you are really is. When people are confined in their mind that are kind of being controlled by some one else like in the above the influence commercial.
ReplyDelete@ Stanesha I double agree with you. Toooooooooooooo many people change themselves to make others happy, and if some has something negative to say : so. When you move on that person can still be following doing whatever and they would just move on to the next. So changing yourself to benefit others is basically a waste of time. Someone is always going to have an input on you whether you are hiding your true self or being you. You can try to judge me all you want, but in the end what you say dosen't matter becuase at the end of the day, this year, this lifetime : I will be around people that except me for me who I won't have to worry about changing for and know me so I won't have to try to suck up to anybody to make them like me, or be fake to my face at the moment.
ReplyDeleteIn some form we all succumb to the masses. This isn’t necessarily a problem until the masses begin to define who you are. A key indicator, according to pop culture trends, is the need to be like or better than someone else. The only person I have to be better than is "me"!
ReplyDeleteI think individuality is great because you get to be yourself but for some people that is not the case because some people are just use to jumping on the band wagon.
ReplyDeleteYour indivisuality is the Characteristics that make up you and who you are. Yes, it is important because thats how people can tell you apart from others, maybe its your attitude or the way you dress. You should embrace it because if you dont then what would make different from everyone else, what would make you stand out in a crowd or a group of people? I would never belittle anybody who has a different musical preference. You should never belittle anyone by their appearence because how someone appears doesnt tell who they are. Buying jordans can get you noticed but thhey won't always make a person cool. You don't have to do what any major entertainer says because they are speaking for themselves. Actually you are not lame because you're different, you are someone unique because you are different.
ReplyDelete@ Princess, I think the world has already adopted confining people to only be themselves in their mind, and a lot of people find no harm in keeping people like this, they think it's okay as long as nobody outwardly expresses their discomfort. Which is so typical and IDIOTIC !!
ReplyDelete@Ms.A : I agree with you. But its not only with teenagers are growing. But also with adults. I believe that there are more adults in the world that arent true to themselves than there are teenagers. Many teens see their parents, teachers, etc. act different to try to fit in with the people that are in their environment for that moment in time...
ReplyDelete@Mike Mitchel. Ummm. NO! I don't really care what some celebrity says or does. Usually celebrities are in drama, so I'm not going to be like them. I don't even like half of the celebrities that are very popular today. They annoy me. Who cares if Lindsey Lohan did something else stupid? We should be used to that! Or why do we need to know about Miley Cirus going for a run? Wow. SOOOO interesting. I don't care much for the celebs of today's world. They have ZERO effect on who I am.
ReplyDelete@Mike Mitchell... We do try to impress others as well as ourselves, but there is a limit. When you CHANGE yourself to fit in, you're no longer being yourself. People always go too far with fitting in, everyone has that one person they fit in with. Trying to be with the cool squad, aint always what it's crack up to be. Some people talk about you behind your back and when you tell them something they always run their mouth's. That's why you should be yourself and get that friend that know you for you and wont judge you for the wrong that you do. You can trust and they can trust you that is why you should be individual.
ReplyDeleteOkay I’m confused... you all seem to agree that succumbing to the stereotypes are wrong and you’re an individual but looking out I see a bunch of clones on a daily, which include myself. So let’s be honest about how much influence the media and pop culture really have on our lives. If others didn’t matter so much why are you tweeting your business to the world? Why are you quoting lyrics and using them as statuses on facebook?
ReplyDelete@ Chanelle Is Best You are definitely right. When you can stop trying to be like other and recognize at the end of the say you will be you, you come to terms with yourself and become more comfortable in your skin. ALSO many people aren't lame because they're a different. I think being lame would depend on your personality, and if anything being lame would mean that you follow others and you don't have your own personality.
ReplyDelete@princess... I agree a lot of adults are lost but they didn't wake up lost... they never knew who they were... or they struggle with who they are and who they wish to be...
ReplyDeleteWhat does succumb mean?????????
ReplyDelete@Mrs.A : I believe that everyone trys to e someone that their not at a moment in time. But there is also a line that you cross when you stop being yourself and become someone else. This is where the problem comes in. But people take quotes from rappers and artisits all the time ; but i dont believe that the identifies them as being someone thier not...i think that only happens because they like a quote that someone had said...
ReplyDelete@Julien I AGREE ! Someone should never belittle a person because of their music, cultural, or dressing preferance. If you're different you should embrace it nonetheless be proud of it.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry Ms.A I think your hair looks great! :)
ReplyDelete@ Ms. A, I think that telling your business on facebook or putting a song as your status has nothing to do what caring about what others think. If I want to put on facebook what my Mom did to get on my nerves I'm expressing myself. If I'n putting a song as my status that expressing how I feel at the moment. Everything (some people) put obn facebook are not a way to tell their business and worry about what people have to say. I take it as a way to rant and rave and people can think what they want because they don't have to read what I put.
ReplyDeleteI agree with most of ya'll. But ya'll making me feel like Im the only one...
ReplyDelete@ TheBst_Um, I understand what you are saying, you wrote the exact same thing i was thing, i hate the fact that everyone is making people seem "typical", everyone is changing how everyone views themself, and if we keep this up we will right back at the beginning trying to make everyone equal, without being oblivious to the fact that there are several people in the world who find joy in making people feel small, and themself feeling superior, it's already a crazy world, why add more stress ???
ReplyDeleteIIIIIF ANYTHING... I would want a friend different from me so that they would be able to introduce me to knew thing. Many of my friends ... we are nothing a like, we (some) dn't try hard to be like each other, but then after hanging out with ppl some of what they do start to rub off on you. If anything most of the time I have an attitude it's because ppl trying to judge me or what I do because it's what they are not used to.
ReplyDelete@ dericia I really agree with you because individuality is being who you are.It is also about accepting who you really are.
ReplyDeleteI think that other people might care what you think of them but thats their fault for letting it get to them they need to suck it up and not try to change themselves because some one dosent like them.
ReplyDelete@Chanelle..... That shows you need someone to be yourself to. And it just so happens that now days, we express ourselves to social networks in hopes that someone will post a comment. Its almost like begging for attention. youre not alone though, I'm guilty of it too...
ReplyDelete@Mike Mitchel, Make you feel the only what?
ReplyDelete@ Ms. Best... um yes it does which is why you do it. If you don't want people to know or comment you would write it in a down in a journal or better yet keep it to yourself. Ranting on Facebook is nothing more than a way for to allow others to see what you’re doing or what’s going on in your life… which is why you do it. Your right they don’t have to read what you put but you put it up there for them to read…But We can agree to disagree… smooches
ReplyDelete@TheBst_Em's respond to Julien: I agreeeeeee ! You should embrace who you are because other's may like who you for who you are.
ReplyDelete@ Chanelle Is Best That is soo right, Ex. Back in the days glasses were for the nerdy and blah blah blah. But now everybody want them and it's like a style now. Back then it was a problem because it wasn't something that people were used to. When people get used to it and it's not different anymore, then it accepted.
ReplyDelete@Ms. Best even responding shows you care what I think... If you don't care then silence would be the best way to prove it...
ReplyDeleteI agree that most people are typical. I could guess what you'll are wearing without ever meeting you....
ReplyDelete@Ms.A I fully understand what you saying, but you can hear from anybody that I personally don't base my statuses of ANYONE else, famous or not. All my lyrics come from heart. I'm not saying that I don't care what other people think though, because most people do. 7/10 times of the day you're in your room getting dressed trying to impress someone else; 8/10 times of the day you're doing something to impress someone else; 9/10 times of the day you're saying something just because you crave the attention and reaction of another person. I may come off as the "I'm only talking to impress these kids... person" but I say what I want because that's exactly how I'm feeling about something, and I want you to know also. Some people don't hang on my every word, but aren't I always talking ? Think about it, I don't speak for (finger point) You, You,OR You.... only myself that's why I the consequences are always impacting me and NO ONE else .
ReplyDeleteI dont think you can respond to yourself lol
ReplyDeleteI agree with what you are saying but it not that easy for some people because it could be a person that they really care about and then that person just don’t like them any more.
ReplyDelete"I dont think you can respond to yourself lol".... thats funny.
ReplyDelete@ Mike Mitchell , I disagree, when I am putting something on FB it is not to get attention to from anybody. i AM NOT lookig for anybody to be myself around seeing as how I am Chanelle EH on a daily basis. I dn't except ppl i dn't kno a fb so the ones that are my friends already know me and there is no need for me to put things to have them guess about how i am feeling, i dn't keep a diary fb is my way to vent. Soooo yeah i plead INNOCENT.
ReplyDeleteyou can respond to yourself,I HAVE !
ReplyDelete@Mike Mitchell While you guessing what I'm wearing, we can honestly assume your race, age, and appearance . . So Bow, We AREN'T really that basic and typical.
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ReplyDelete@ TheBest_Em, thank you for saying what EVERYBODY was thinking, who is he to say we are all so typical, he definetely might be the same !!!!!!
ReplyDeleteYou you're talking and responding to yourself....that sort of explains the topic, "Solitary ConMindment", as in confinement. Has it gotten to the point that we have to talk to ourselves?
ReplyDeleteIf youre talking and responding to yourself....
ReplyDelete@Mya... that comment wasn't for or about you dear... come give me a hug...
ReplyDelete@Dericia yeah we were all thinking it, we just didn't know exactly how to say it to him. But yeah how arfe you so sure you know us so much Mike?
ReplyDeleteIndividuality is when someone can express themselves in their own way. If their wasn't individuality the world would be plain and real boring. People shouldn't care about other people say about them or what they think. Be who you want to be don't base it on what others say or do.
ReplyDelete@Mike Mitchell : Everyone talks to themselves. And if noone accepts us for who we are , then whoelse do we have to talk to?
ReplyDelete@Maya... you can still say what is on your mind and have tact about it.
ReplyDelete@ Mike Mitchell , you know What ! I am unique, i talk to myself I am confined at being me and me only. That sort of dosn't explain the tope "define individuality" . So yeah , actually I'm typing to myself, I'm not ashamed because that would be me thinking about changing myself or disliking something I do for someone else.
ReplyDelete@TheBst_Em..... Bow? That sound like something that ignorant Waka Flacka would say...lol. No need to guess, I'll tell you... I have a Bachelor's degree, I'm currently working on my Masters. those are college degrees. I dont have stacks, I havebank accounts. Other than that, I'm gorgeous. Bow! Flocka!!...lol
ReplyDelete@ Pricess we could talk to god
ReplyDelete@I have a lotus... thanks dear your my favorite
ReplyDelete@E. Smith yeah I agree 100% with you Emory. You should never base who you are on what anyone says. Be who you are and not what anyone else says.
ReplyDeleteOf course, I dont know you guys. I only know what's typical....
ReplyDelete@Shelly. Long : True. But who here on the earth?
ReplyDeleteyour dog or cat
ReplyDeleteI hope, Im not coming off offensive. I'm just very passionate about people being themselves.
ReplyDelete@Shelly Long : Umm, definately not. lol
ReplyDeleteFor a long time, I wsnt myself. Once I embraced my individuality, i became more successful.
ReplyDelete@ Mike Mitchell , NOW WE'RE TYPICAL ! Okay you dn't kno us you only kno what's typical . . . then you dn't know if we're typical if you DONT KNOW US
ReplyDelete@Shelly Long: Your cats or dogs can't answer so you're still talking to yourself, if you think about it.
ReplyDelete@Mike Mitchel- You're not being offensive, but you are putting us into a stereo type that we are all typical??
ReplyDeleteJordans, skinny jeans, long chains, just aint me. But if I dont appeal to ya'll, I'm lame....
ReplyDelete@mike...
ReplyDeleteso who defines individuality?
No, Im not calling you all typical. im just speaking in general. I'm sure all you are smart...
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ReplyDelete@Mike Mitchel now you sound so pestimistic, "I'm lame...." just saying, you sound like my "Emo" friends that are never positive.
ReplyDelete@Ms. A........You!! In my case, I do!!
ReplyDelete@Mike... so deoesn't that mean that society and the masses define individuality.
ReplyDelete@ Mike Mitchell : Yall is TOO many people
ReplyDelete@Mike Mitchell.... ookkk that's cool, but i truly believe you was not coming off as inspirational... but you were being very offensive as some point. Even though, you were trying to prove a point do not mean its ok to state whatever you want
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ReplyDelete@Mike Mitchell : Okay, First of all Waka Flocka ignorant uneducated self Doesn't even express who you're even trying describe. Let me tell you who you're talking to I'm working on my Bachelor's in my second year of Early College studying jurisprudence. Stacks ? ? ? ? ? Where's this coming from, so now we're including sterotypes in the equation ? Bow is slang for "So There" OR "My point being" . . On another note, I don't even like Waka Flocka, so for someone to be so "smart" or "judgemental" you really don't know much.
ReplyDelete@ TheBst_Em i like your cmmt... @ Mike Mitchell who told you that you had to conform to be us, no body is telling you to change; we're saying you don't not making sense !!!
ReplyDelete@TheBst_Em......lol. Understand that me responses are only following up my posting. My responses arent from my perspective, but moreso from a general perspective.
ReplyDelete@ Somebody, I would definitely not like someone who wears the same clothes as me because i dn't want to be dressed like evryone . get this : i am AN INDIVIDUAL
ReplyDelete@ Mike Mitchel, if it's not from your perspective then why were you saying you were getting deffensive because you are passionate about people being themselves? That is your perspective.
ReplyDelete@Ms. A..... The individual themself defines individuality.
ReplyDelete@Chanelle ... HEY..
ReplyDelete@ Chanelle Is Best, riiiiight we save that dress alike stuff for the rich people and the cliques, dolce & gabbana dn't make that many original dressed.
ReplyDelete@Mike Mitchell : General ? What general perspective is that ; because it's starting to become more of a racial matter rather 'typical' OR 'general' one. All this slang that you're stating is coming from a more "darker" perspective and yes it is being taken personal . .
ReplyDelete@monsterofcookie ask matt who calls their sister sis?
ReplyDelete@Chanelle Is Best i agree with you because if a person come wearing the same thing then it does take away from your individuality.
ReplyDeleteI never said I was becoming defensive... I checked to see if you guys were taking offense to my posting
ReplyDeleteyeah im sick of putting @,
ReplyDelete@Mike Mitchel, I wasnt being offended, but I guess some others were. We have to go. Good Discussion Mike
ReplyDeletethen dont put it.
ReplyDeleteOkay everyone make your final post and log off... Enjoy your weekend
ReplyDeletei was offended
ReplyDeleteYoure really going to play the race card? This is clearly a discussion.
ReplyDelete@ Everybody; signing out-- and the person who is trying to defend themself, making borderline cmmts doesn't make what you are saying okay or relevant !!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI appreciate the discusion!! Thanks guys. If you were'nt offended, you do well in "Critical Thinking", thats a pschology college course. You'll love it!!!
ReplyDelete@Lotusman777 Thanks!!
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